Trauma Triggers Everywhere! Grief & Social Media | What's a Crisis?

1. Hi kati, I don’t know if this is going to make sense as my mind isn’t making sense anymore *overwhelmed*. January is a traumatic time for me, I was sexual abused on Australia day when I was 16, every year I struggle (suicidal ideation) to this anniversary. I’m scared nightmares to flashbacks to thoughts of suicide. The Australian flag triggers me to hearing about it on the tv to seeing it on social media. How can I escape my triggers when its everywhere. Thank you
2. Hello there Kati, Sean and fellow Kinions. I've a question about grief, suicide/euthanasia and the digital age. Three and a half years ago I lost my friend who was like my twin and it pretty much destroyed my life. Said friend had told me about her plan to end her life a year or so beforehand. It was hard to argue with her choice (believe me I argued!) as the friend was in so much incurable pain, life was literally unbearable and she had tried every option possible and was badly treated by some supposedly excellent doctors (I still get cross about that). What is VERY hard is that while I've lost many friends, this time there's a Facebook account, text messages, video, myriad photographs and so forth. I find death in a digital ago so much HARDER somehow. It's everywhere but my loved one is nowhere. I also have a terrible fear her various accounts will be closed and that's worse. Why? I've not come to terms with her death and I'll be the first to admit that. What would be your advice on the fine line between wanting to keep all this content but also finding it hard to see happy photos pop up and to read old messages? Is it insane that I still email her from time to time? Ironically, the friend I used to chat to about this (a brilliant young psychologist) also died a year ago and her digital footprint is even bigger as her death was all over the news. So analogue verses online experiences of suicide and death. I can't be the only one... ? :)
3. I was wondering - What exactly qualifies as a ‘crisis’? (Everyone speaks about crisis etc, but I realized I never really understood what really is a crisis and therefore, when we should start implementing crisis management strategies!) And to go along with this question, what should we do when we seem to be in perpetual crisis state due to external circumstances and what do clinicians think about when crisis is happening? Thanks so much Kati!!