Do I have to Accept Toxic People? | Healing from a Miscarriage
Added 2018-06-12 22:50:53 +0000 UTC1. I've been seeing a new therapist for about a month now. My first and previous therapist left her position at the private practice. I was devastated when I received the news. I was overly attached to her and I believe I still am. My new therapist doesn't quite help me in a way that is most effective for me. She validates my feelings, but she doesn't go further in helping me explore why I feel that way. Most of my issues stem from my dysfunctional family and their toxic behaviors. My new therapist thinks that I should be understanding of my family's toxic behaviors because their past was traumatic. My old therapist believed that it's wrong for someone to be toxic and tyrannical despite suffering from a traumatic past. Essentially, my old therapist believed that people hold responsibility for themselves and their own well-being. On the contrary, my new therapist believes that changing others is impossible, therefore we must just accept people in their own nature. I understand both points, but I don’t know which one brings me more comfort. Please help.
2. The last few months I’ve been struggling quite a bit about grieving the loss of a child through a miscarriage I had when I was 17. (I’m now 22) I know a lot of why I’m struggling now is because my really close friend has just recently gone through a miscarriage and that has sort of triggered me somehow. I have no idea why it has affected me so much though, to the point of me not being able to function during the day. It feels as though my every waking moment is being consumed by thoughts of how I’m a failure in life by not being able to carry a child. Which is funny because I wouldn’t say that to anyone who’s has gone through a miscarriage so why am I saying it to myself. I’ve been trying to just allow room for all this guilt but a huge part of me just won’t. I’m just so confused why now after all this time it’s affecting me. I’ve been around and supported people who have gone through a miscarriage before so why is this time so different?
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I don’t think I’ve watched a video as much as what I’ve watched this one 😕🤔
Te Uira Reedy
2018-06-14 06:58:37 +0000 UTCKati!!! I got over 90 percent on my CBT counselling session. 😀 😀 😀 Another HD. Thank you thank you!!!
BinsQ
2018-06-13 10:05:14 +0000 UTCMight be a book I need to get. This year was the first year I allowed myself to grief. Miscarriaged due to DV and since starting therapy this year, it just all came to the surface.
Elle VS
2018-06-13 07:57:14 +0000 UTCTruth talk with Bins. 😀
BinsQ
2018-06-13 06:05:07 +0000 UTCAwe xoxo ❤️❤️
Kati Morton
2018-06-13 05:20:36 +0000 UTCKati, every time you say how nervous you were about 'putting yourself out there' I honestly chuckle. Not an evil chuckle, just one of simple amusement. It just isn't in your make up to fail at sharing your gift with the world. There is NEVER any doubt that your ventures will be acknowledged and more than appreciated. It's just funny that in this area of your life, we see more clearly than you. :) Much love and Keep on Patreon! :) xoxoxoxo
BinsQ
2018-06-13 01:38:52 +0000 UTCWonderful videos as always. I've a friend who lost her IVF baby in a road rage incident at 36/37 weeks. She has a stunning little boy now. She had extensive grief therapy and lots of support. Then she wrote a BRILLIANT book about everything and it's (not biased) one of my favourites. She took the time that Kati is talking about. She grieved and she chose her own belief system about life, love and where her little girl is now. She did many things to commemorate this baby girl and each one brought her one step closer to a good life. I can say all this as it was all over the news and a highly publicised case in Australia. Plus the book is VERY honest. If you ever get to a place where you feel like reading a story of loss, grief and then finding life again, try 'Baby Lost' by Hannah Robert. I know it's not a miscarriage but the grief and the planning and the joy being taken away is very much the same. MUCH love to you. xoxoxox
BinsQ
2018-06-13 01:35:49 +0000 UTCquestion 2- 2:35
Sheepishness
2018-06-12 22:58:26 +0000 UTC
