sexplanations

Title suggestion

Could you suggest a title for the video on how to respond compassionately to abuse disclosure?

Also, if you wrote comments on the video itself, and you're willing to post them on the version that goes public on Wednesday, that would be wonderful. 

THANK YOU!

Private video poll

I just posted a link to a video about my experience with secondary victimization and some of the ways we can do better to prevent trauma like it in the future. This is a poll to help with next steps. Feel free to choose as many responses as you'd like. 

Private video

hi. As you may know the last few months have been a new kind of challenging for me. An old abuse case that I had resolved for myself as a victim has new victims which means I'm often recounting the abuse and revisiting the trauma while building a case for all of us to stop the perpetration.

One way I've chosen to process things in this decade of my life is through videos so during these...

Today's video and a favor

Hi All, 

As you know the last few months have been tricky. I'm working on it and trying to make sure sex education stays a priority. I recently got to talk with my dad on camera and it was really special to capture how  thoughtful and curious he is. Obviously influential on my psyche. 

A favor: I'm going to go to a nearby creek to submerge myself in cold water as some...

Today

Today I'm feeling more vulnerable on Patreon than ever before. There has been an influx of patrons who believe that by supporting me here they will unlock nude photos and videos or at least feel justified in asking for them. This has made being on this platform and my email inboxes uncomfortable. I want to check and reply to messages but requests to buy my sexual attention have become a deterre...

Book questions

How do you feel about me reformatting the Sexplanations' episodes into a book? 

Do I need to write all new sex education so it's original?

Would you like a book-version of the video episodes? 

What do you think would be best for the world?

Link to full photo shoot

Here's the link to the google drive of photos: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1SzSdsRXSJCHfxj-FWwjpcmg4LOd204Dz?usp=sharing

The company that makes the vibrating necklace I wear is called Crave. I met their founders at CatalystCon (sex ed conference) almost s...

pura vida

This week I signed a contract to work with Crave. They make the vibrating necklaces I wear which are super quiet and well-built. Anyway, as part of the set-up, I needed to send them photos of me with the Vesper (the necklace). With quarantine this has been very difficult but eventually we pulled it off and I did a safe distance photo shoot with the Sexplanations' videographer. I'll post more pi...

Please vote for as many options as you'd like for my life:

updates -- happy sads

Hi All, 

Let’s have a board meeting. I’m writing from my couch in my new house four blocks from the sea on the east coast of the Baja Peninsula in Mexico. As you may know I came here to improve my physical health, work on a book, and make your support go further. I also happen to be learning what it’s like to live in a fairly secluded village with the company of 4-9 dogs. It’...

Thank you for making this video possible

I've wanted to make this episode for a long time and I feel so grateful that I finally got to. Especially now with so many people sheltering in place and needing contraceptive resources. Thank you for making this possible!

Someone asked me if I was going to address what's bad about vibrators

so...

Your answers, friends

I didn't answer all the questions you asked but here's some of them. 

Extra $, tax update from Patreon

Hi everyone,

I wanted to give you an update on some changes that we’ll be seeing which may affect some of your pledges. Due to new laws passing in several countries and US states, Patreon will be required to start charging sales tax on some pledges starting July 1st. 

Less than half of all patrons will be charged sales tax, and for most, the amount will be ve...

New video about my tattoo

Rough Cut Preview

I'm a little stuck on what to do with this episode. I don't love the thumbnail or the choppiness of the cuts at the beginning and the end. I'm not sure if it needs music in the background, or if it should be scraped altogether. I do think it is important and I did find myself talking to the screen once she started listening. Just not sure. 

If you have time, I'd appreciate your feedb...

Sex Toy Unboxing video

Hola from Baja, 

I hope this video brings you joy. I had fun making it and watching it. She’s a silly sexologist ;o)

Quick updates: 

1. Thank you to those of you who increased your pledges or pledged for the first time or again. This was actually really unexpected and such a nice reminder that I’m not alone here. 
2. Last night I woke up to a loudsp...
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a little joy for your lockdown

Thank you for making this possible

Let's Talk

You’ve been on my mind everyday for the last month but it has felt like I didn’t know how to move the words from my throat to my mouth, or in this case my keyboard. Now is the time. I’m ready. 

As you may know from my last email, I live in a small town called La Ventana in Baja California Sur in Mexico. Wiki says the population is 255 but I’m guessing that at this time of yea...

Draft Preview

As you may know I rarely have the same guest twice. This is because there are so many voices out there; I want to make room for more people to share their stories. That being said, I've worked with a select few on multiple projects because I enjoy their company. Amp, for example, feels like a kindred spirit. I laugh so much when I'm with him and I feel really secure. So, this is one of 3 episod...

Dear Decision Makers

If you're able to see this post it is because you pledge at an amount which gives you access to voting and decision making. Thank you. I'm writing to check-in and pose some questions. 

First, I'm in El Sargento, Baja California Sur, Mexico. I'm parked at an RV park here where there's a community of kite surfing enthusiasts who come from all over the world every kite season (Oct'ish-M...

New video

Meet Midori (preview)

This is a preview of my interview with Midori (author, artist, educator, expert). It has been edited from so the footage is only 20 minutes compared to hours BUT I’m uncertain whether or not to cut it shorter from this. Usually we crop videos to less than 10 minutes, closer to 5. I’m going to try making it tighter but maybe you want to have access to the whole thing and let me know what you...

I felt like playing

This week a TikTok video made by another sex educator on how to put on condoms was flagged by TikTok and I think removed. She didn't say anything about sex, just how to put a condom on properly. Such a bummer. We made /this/ video a couple of weeks ago before going on the road and I know that it will have challenges on YouTube but fewer. Sexplanations does not get the same exposure as other edu...

Sweatshirt Question

We designed this really pretty sweatshirt from the RV wrap graphics and we'll be advertising it for pre-sale on DFTBA.com this week but before everything is finalized and goes to print I wanted to get your feedback. Especially on the fact that the quotation on the sweatshirt is not mine. It is a Smiley Blanton quotation. So do you think that we should add his name to the sweatshirt? Replace th...

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New video on sex and masturbation

What's the difference between them? Is one better than the other? Am I a monster?

Packages

Over the last week I have mailed out close to 100 packages. Half of them went to people who donated $200 to the Road Tour during the livestream and another chunk went out to you yesterday. I took them boxes and a laundry basket into the post office of small town Dillon, Montana (where I’m told I was conceived). The attendant there worked so quickly to get them all situated. We did take two br...

Sex tip from my dream

The other night I had a dream that I was running down a hall in a big convention center to my wedding. But I wasn’t sure about getting married so I stopped to ask these girls who displayed Baliwood Anime on a table in the hall if they had any sex questions. My thinking was I’d give them sex advice and ask for marital advice in exchange. The one young person said she was with someone who had...

Live stream in 3 hours

I'm borrowing a computer and the brain of my editor to operate a live stream that works. It is all set up and scheduled to connect us at 5:45 Pacific. 

Here's the agenda:

Say hi. Talk about the upcoming tour'ish adventure. Rally pledges to pass my sexual belongings onto new homes. Build a care package live. Introduce you to my dog. Answer questions. Take feedback. Eat an egg or...