My grandma just died 8 days ago. It's very different from the situation in this ep; She was 95 and she wasn't doing well but thankfully she was able to be at home on hospice and thankfully she died in her sleep. I was up with my mom taking the night shift, and we realized my grandma's breathing was super silent unlike the loud harsh breathing that had been going on, and I felt for her pulse and listened for breathing and there was none.
That's the part that's kinda similar. "Finding" her dead. Getting my sister from the other room, calling my uncle to come over. We called the doctor to officially pronounce her, but that took an hour or so for him to arrive and she was already slightly cool when he got here. By the time the people from the mortuary came to get her a few hours later she was definitely cold, not freezing, but still definitely not a warm, live body.
So yeah. Similarities. No urgent need to try to save her, but still denial and "are you sure she didn't just breathe?/Didn't you feel a pulse just then?" And just sitting with the body until they took her away. It sucks. And I'm not ready for the funeral tomorrow.
Christina J Atkins
2023-07-02 21:29:24 +0000 UTC
I think showing us the body is quite important. It ensures that we as an audience truly grasp what is happening, and that we cannot hide from the body. The body is all that remains after we leave it. In my opinion, we've forgotten how to treat our dead. We used to bathe our lost family members, hold their bodies in our living rooms and have friends come over and mourn for days. The funeral industry changed that. Now, we are afraid of the body, but we all still see our loved one. We want to make the body warm, like Buffy at the start, and Dawnie at the end. This episode gives us the opportunity to say goodbye to Joyce so many times. I cherish the scenes of the body, because it is the final time Joyce gets to exist as we knew her. Much love to all who were touched by this episode.
I never got to see my father's body, but like you, this episode was catharsis. Thank you so much for sharing.
Lucas
2022-07-24 09:40:17 +0000 UTC
Nothing will ever get me as bad as the fact that Anya wished Joyce didn’t die. 😭
Lex Larae
2022-07-18 21:43:14 +0000 UTC
The silence in this episode is truly deafening, isn't it? Thank you for your beautiful reaction, love.
Also, here's a little fact about that first kiss between Tara and Willow: this was actually a very important moment in the history of LGBTQ+ television - not only because in those days it was one of only a few lesbian kisses that had ever appeared on mainstream television, but also because of how Joss chose to put it in there.
Instead of it being another "omg a lesbian kiss" moment (like every other portrayal of lesbian relationships up to that moment on TV), this was just a very narural moment between two people in love who were trying to console each other, and feeling their heartbreak together. This really had never been done before, and Joss apparently had to fight really hard to make it happen. Gay couples were never portrayed as "just another normal couple" in those days, and that's why it was such an important moment for so many people. Crazy when you think about it, hey?
Monique Vanh
2022-04-21 22:43:08 +0000 UTC
Sending big hugs!❤️
Teresa Schultz
2022-04-02 00:53:51 +0000 UTC
They left my sister with us, just like in show.
Ryan Powers
2022-04-01 16:50:28 +0000 UTC
I think I felt the worst for you when I knew all the times you had to keep seeing the many close ups of Joyce's body.
Val
2022-03-31 02:19:50 +0000 UTC
Joss's own personal experience inspired this episode when his mom died suddenly in a car crash. I think that's why it feels so real. Because it is. I'm glad you got to see the episode but totally understand not wanting to see it again. It's a masterpiece like you said. I'm really sorry you are going through so much tho, Sophie. Sending lots of strength and good vibes your way!
Samiah
2022-03-10 06:23:37 +0000 UTC
One of things about the silence a lot of people don't realize joss was getting flack about his directing skills that buffy was just action and soundtrack without the soundtrack it wouldn't be good. So he made a whole episode to prove them wrong that you don't need music. Also, the stress of the episode and I was so worried about you I ate through a box of girl scout cookies lol.
Jessica George
2022-03-07 15:46:18 +0000 UTC
The amount of chills I got while watching this episode especially when buffy walked in the house and Joyce was just laying there the goosebumps it got
xbowalex
2022-03-06 17:38:19 +0000 UTC
Best episode in TV history imo. The funny thing is trying to explain to people that never watched Buffy why it is the greatest show ever made but they'll never get it unless they watch it all.
Roy Ben-Ami
2022-03-06 07:40:42 +0000 UTC
Amazing reaction! This episode aired three months after my wife died (my 15yo daughter found her on the back porch) - watching it with my daughter brought us back to that night. The true to life feel of it was a real help during the grieving process.
Scott Kenney
2022-03-06 06:49:10 +0000 UTC
When my wife died she was just left till the funeral home collected her. It was obvious she'd been dead for a few hours.
Scott Kenney
2022-03-06 06:43:45 +0000 UTC
This was though to watch, and that is all I 've got to say. Big hug back. ❤