PSA - To Each & Every Simmie
Added 2021-08-21 05:11:54 +0000 UTCSul sul simmies & friends!
This is an important PSA I want you all to hear!
I have noticed a common theme in most messages that are sent to me. Almost all of them start with some variation of "sorry to bother you".
You do not need to apologize for messaging me!
You are valued and so are your thoughts, questions, & ramblings!
This is something I struggle with too - apologizing constantly. From my perspective, growing up as a cis woman, I feel like society engrained in me and other women that we need to apologize for just existing. I imagine this feeling is shared among minorities and my friends in the LGBTQA+ community.
And for men, or whatever perfectly wonderful way you identify, I am not trying to leave you out, your feelings are valid too! Just mentioning women specifically cause that is about ~90% of the patrons and something I can speak to from personal experience.
So I am here to tell you - stop it! No more apologizing, especially to me. I feel so humbled and grateful not only for your support, but your friendship. Your messages and comments truly brighten my day. You all owe me nothing, it is me that has an obligation to you.
A lot of people say that "EA should hire me already". But why would I ever want that when I already have the best bosses a simmie could ask for - you!! Also, I would have quit out of rage if I were ever forced to make a murphy bed instead of a bunk bed... just saying.
I hope you all are having a wonderful start to your weekend and I have some goodies coming for you in the next few days!! And don't forget...
Be unapologetically you!
♥ rava
Comments
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HaitianC Da Simmer
2023-07-28 01:36:39 +0000 UTCBeautiful and perfectly said! Well done!!
Ssimerella
2023-07-26 11:57:24 +0000 UTCYou’re gonna make me cry 😢
dizzy-sims
2022-01-25 06:16:40 +0000 UTCyou are adorable 😊
jody
2021-11-08 19:59:27 +0000 UTCthis entire post warms my heart. that message about apologizing...that is something i've been instilling in my daughters for years as a raging feminist (and not a male basher, in case anyone asks). keep being wonderful, Rava...the Form+Function CC Queen
Poka
2021-09-11 23:42:23 +0000 UTCYou're so kind 🥺You deserve it all ♥️
Nina Stevens
2021-08-28 17:58:55 +0000 UTCthis is such a beautiful post <3
2021-08-27 15:28:08 +0000 UTCIs there any way to get tiny appliances to go with your RV cc you created?
Jennifer Sisk
2021-08-26 04:10:34 +0000 UTC<3
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-25 08:51:31 +0000 UTC💚💚💚
Ana Rode
2021-08-24 16:12:42 +0000 UTCily!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:19:41 +0000 UTCily!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:19:37 +0000 UTC<3
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:19:33 +0000 UTClololol ikr?!? <3 i did have a lovely weekend and i hope you did too!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:19:29 +0000 UTC<3
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:19:05 +0000 UTCright back at your lady!!!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:19:00 +0000 UTCand i adore you!!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:18:53 +0000 UTCyes! i agree with this too, my momma raised me to always have good manners. one simmer suggested above that you could replace the sorry with something like "thank you for your time". then you can be polite without having to apologize! :)
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:18:47 +0000 UTCyou are so welcome and I am so glad to have you as part of this community!!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:17:54 +0000 UTCyes! i agree i think people are also just trying to be polite, but someone suggested a great alternative above: replace the sorry with something like "thank you for your time". then you can satisfy your urge to be polite without having to apologize :)
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:17:36 +0000 UTCagreed kristy!!! ive thought about doing a meet up before actually!! i know there are a few people that live in my area :)
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:16:13 +0000 UTCi love streaming with you all!! i think its a fun way to interact with you all more... i just wish everyone was in the same time zone so i could catch everyone :P
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:15:46 +0000 UTCand thank you for being YOU!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:14:44 +0000 UTCyes! exactly!! but also, we shouldnt feel mean or demanding for asking a question 😭 someone suggested above starting with "thank you for your time" instead of apologizing and i thoguht that was a great alternative
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:14:36 +0000 UTCas are you!!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:13:26 +0000 UTCas are you!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:13:17 +0000 UTCsameeee!! i wouldnt have survived covid withot this community
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:13:06 +0000 UTCi love you!!! and it is well written (especially for being done on mobile!!) and YASSS these are great alternatives... the "thank you for your time" etc. that also isnt necessary, but if you find yourself apologizing, it is a great great way to start substituting it for an apologizing
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:10:06 +0000 UTC<3
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:06:28 +0000 UTCthis ^^^^^^ i wish it was something i realized/started working on when i was younger!!! i hope this helps some of the younger simmies in here, cause we shouldnt wait to start practicing this kind of thing!!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:06:25 +0000 UTCaw thanks kate!! im glad we made sure your game isnt a barren desert ;)
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:04:57 +0000 UTCyou are so welcome!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:04:02 +0000 UTCthank you so much amanda!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:03:56 +0000 UTC<3 turn that frown upside down!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:03:03 +0000 UTCthis makes me so so happy to hear!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 12:02:09 +0000 UTCyou are so welcome!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 11:59:37 +0000 UTC<3
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 11:58:05 +0000 UTCyesssss!!! and especially for professors... i wanted to be a professor originally. and many of them are in that position because they have a passion for teaching and helping. going into industry is far more lucrative that being a professor, so the ones that make that choice are normally very passionate about it and want to help.
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 11:58:00 +0000 UTCxoxoxoxo
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 11:54:52 +0000 UTCits a bummer we need a reminder, but i hope this helped!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 11:54:48 +0000 UTC<3
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 11:54:28 +0000 UTC<3
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 11:54:24 +0000 UTC<3 <3
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 11:54:20 +0000 UTCyou are so sweet, thank you!!!! <3 that makes my whole day hearing that :)
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 11:53:52 +0000 UTCily!!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 11:53:32 +0000 UTC"and it's all I can do to not apologize for being overly apologetic." <<< THIS!!!
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 11:53:26 +0000 UTCthank you so much!! you are also the coolest :)
RAVASHEEN
2021-08-24 11:52:54 +0000 UTC<3
BellaLily
2021-08-23 23:35:57 +0000 UTCYou're the best! I learned as I got older (and I'm old! ) not to ever apologize for taking up space that is mine by birthright. Its so freeing. Thank you for doing what you always do- making this a welcoming, comfortable community for all.
Sam D.
2021-08-23 20:37:18 +0000 UTCthat was a lovely message! I struggle with the constant excuses myself and you're so right. I am glad to be a patron on here and love your work. My game would be a barren desert without your input and to know how humble and awesome you as a person are is the cherry on top ;-)
2021-08-23 16:49:19 +0000 UTCThank you for the lovely message and reminder!!
Jacki
2021-08-23 15:55:55 +0000 UTCThank you for being so thoughtful and kind. I am very happy to support you and your work. x
Amanda
2021-08-23 15:08:06 +0000 UTC<3333
2021-08-23 09:12:25 +0000 UTC♥️🥺
Gaelle Ngadjui
2021-08-22 23:22:48 +0000 UTCYou are the most humble person I have known! You are smart and you are amazing! And I love everything you make! I am enjoying playing my game because of you!
Sharon Swem
2021-08-22 20:30:00 +0000 UTCSooo I really needed that message in my life. Thank you for that and for everything, always! <3
2021-08-22 18:12:39 +0000 UTCThat was a lovely message x
2021-08-22 17:55:53 +0000 UTCI needed this so much! I went back to uni after 10 years out of school and I find myself constantly beginning communications with my professors with "I apologize for the inconvenience..." when in reality THEY ARE THERE TO TEACH/HELP ME! You are amazing and THANK YOU for this wonderful reminder <3
chealsea
2021-08-22 17:35:48 +0000 UTCxoxoxoxo
Holly Golden
2021-08-22 17:21:19 +0000 UTCYou are simply the best! Thank you for the reminder that we don't need to apologize for being who we are.
M C
2021-08-22 15:28:16 +0000 UTCAgreed:)
Marie King
2021-08-22 01:17:37 +0000 UTCi can not heart this enough!!
Brittney Pratt
2021-08-22 01:04:25 +0000 UTCIf only I could click the heart a billion times! <3
Kate Ayre
2021-08-21 23:51:48 +0000 UTCI want you to know whenever I list my favorite CC creators, you are always at the top of the list ... your stuff is amazing. Thank you from another cis woman.
Buntah
2021-08-21 22:55:32 +0000 UTCI just love you so much. <3 <3 <3
Leigh Bennett
2021-08-21 22:22:59 +0000 UTCI felt this. I'm in my 50s and I still find myself apologizing for the least little thing. My husband has repeatedly told me to "Stop apologizing!"...and it's all I can do to not apologize for being overly apologetic. smh
LeAnna
2021-08-21 19:51:19 +0000 UTCYou are genuinely nice and you make the best sims 4 content. I'm glad you are gaining more patrons, you deserve it for your hard work. You are the coolest! :)
2021-08-21 19:47:10 +0000 UTCCould we love you more?!!! God Bless you!
trenia lane
2021-08-21 19:30:26 +0000 UTCThis is why I love you. :)
Geek-TastikSimz
2021-08-21 18:14:15 +0000 UTC💗
Jalè R.
2021-08-21 17:51:00 +0000 UTCI’m sorry our sorry’s have bothered you. Jk! 😝 I hope you have a lovely wkd!
MajikAce
2021-08-21 17:49:39 +0000 UTC**sparkly eyes** awwww.
2021-08-21 17:29:47 +0000 UTCYou're a class act, lady! <3
Riven Wildehart
2021-08-21 17:04:40 +0000 UTCI just adore you! Thank you for everything you do!
Shawn Birch
2021-08-21 16:23:32 +0000 UTCDitto to what Wendy Hubble said!!!! I couldn't have said it any better.
Constance
2021-08-21 16:12:48 +0000 UTCThank YOU for being the wonderful human you are! It feels so good to be a part of your kind and loving community. Thank you for putting out such an important message. We love you!
Ruth Bromberg
2021-08-21 16:00:29 +0000 UTCI appreciate you just as you are, and it's sweet of you to be concerned, but I think starting off with something like "Sorry to bother you but..." has more to do with manners than anything else. Thankfully, in this crazy world, people still want to be polite and not just bust down the proverbial door and start a conversation on a negative footing. You are a lovely person, and I think people just don't want to offend you.
Wendy Hubble
2021-08-21 14:40:19 +0000 UTCI feel the same way! I would love to meet you one day. I could see us being good friends. You are kind, have patience, and I can tell you are genuinely a good person (which can be hard to find in a friend ). I hope you have a wonderful weekend as well :)
Kristy Payne
2021-08-21 14:37:47 +0000 UTCYou’re the best! The fact that you stream as well just means how much you value your supporters. Much love and respect to you!
Cedric Mempin
2021-08-21 14:26:48 +0000 UTCI definitely agree this :3
Seeo
2021-08-21 13:16:13 +0000 UTCYour followers love you because you are a 100 percent nice person -- have a great weekend.
ROSANNE PARKS
2021-08-21 13:05:04 +0000 UTCAlso Canadian, and you're so right. Lol
queenofdeath
2021-08-21 12:11:18 +0000 UTCOh bless your heart. You're just the sweetest, and so so wonderful. Thanks for being you!!! ❤
queenofdeath
2021-08-21 12:10:39 +0000 UTCYou are such a lovely person and such a class act ❤️
MayLilithReign
2021-08-21 11:59:05 +0000 UTCThis is something that we all need to hear. I try to practice it IRL, but , I think it is a way to try to come off as polite in a setting that is mostly written exchanges. We don't want to sound mean or demanding, so instead we apologize for everything LOL. You are right, though. It needs to stop. We need to come up with better ways to communicate friendly intentions without defaulting to apology. :D
Karen
2021-08-21 09:51:38 +0000 UTCYou are simply a beautiful person. 🤗
Lisa G
2021-08-21 09:45:58 +0000 UTCThank you. I love getting your and other creators messages, in the Covid heavy restrictions I have where I live, you guys keep me in touch with people.
Ree Barkla
2021-08-21 08:43:23 +0000 UTCThank you for being so wonderfully nice and open. It is true what you say although I'd like to share a couple more things... 1) Many creators in our community DO get angry when you msg them with most requests, suggestions, or any constructive criticism and I get it. They are very busy, they are popular and prob get tons of msgs, and they are sensitive of criticism for their hard work. So, for me, it's almost feeling apologetic contacting them with any questions or suggestions. 2) I'm Canadian. It's just something we do! hahaha Thank you for your kindness and all your awesome work. Am such a fan of everything you make. ❤
Willyssa Catcheway
2021-08-21 08:37:04 +0000 UTCJdksjfkkenfmejfjd RAVA I LOVE YOUUUUUUUUUUUUU!!!!!! Yes we should all stop doing this and if we have to say something, say thank you instead. I read it on tumblr somewhere about replacing sorry with thank you, for example: instead of “I’m sorry I’m late” “thank you for your patience” (idk about this example I’d probably still apologize but skjdhrhdhkebd) or like “sorry to bother you” “thank you for taking the time/thank you for listening”. Yeah! Idk if this is written well cause I’m on mobile and can only see like 9 words at a time lmao but. 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
2021-08-21 08:10:30 +0000 UTChonestly, this is something I need to be reminded of from time to time. Especially as a woman in STEM, I get so used to having to ask for space in discussions. Thank you for being so encouraging!
Álainn Digresses
2021-08-21 08:08:16 +0000 UTCYou are such a lovely person Rava, have a wonderful weekend, too ❤
barbazooka
2021-08-21 08:07:23 +0000 UTCRava you're absolutely amazing! I've never been able to make it to one of your live streams but I have every piece of cc you make in my game. I can NOT play without it! Thank you for being a boss and for reminding us not to apologize. Get it girl ♀️
KikiiBees
2021-08-21 05:23:13 +0000 UTCYou are ravishing! Thank you for allowing us access to you without apology. We women should be bold and brave, presenting ourselves with humility and grace. You are the epitome of that behavior! I also hope you have a wonderful weekend! 🤗
True AI
2021-08-21 05:20:07 +0000 UTCSo thankful for this community and members of it like you! Xoxo
Daniel Charles
2021-08-21 05:17:07 +0000 UTCHave a wonderful weekend, rava! ❤️
Rudy Huxtable
2021-08-21 05:14:25 +0000 UTC