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Hello Kati, I am considering subscribing for online therapy. Any things I should keep in mind or tips? Thank you and cheers from Estonia :)

Aqueda Veronica

2017-03-09 15:05:03 +0000 UTC

Hey Elfie :) Yes you do know your own experience best...and it sounds like you have encountered some terrible mental health professionals. Something that could help is notice what mean things you say to yourself each day and pick 5 and talk back to them with a positive. If you can't think of anything, imagine it was your friend who was saying this to themselves.. what would you tell them instead :) This should help with your negative thoughts about yourself (ie. that you are weak and whiny) because that is just not true. xoxo And please reach out to another professional!! There are good ones out there! xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-03-07 22:31:39 +0000 UTC

Hi Kati! I'm having a really hard time trying to assess how bad I am feeling. I keep feeling like I don't have the right to feel bad and my feelings feel unreal. I suffer a lot from depersonalization I think. I doubt weather or not I have a real mental illness or not or am I just looking for excuses for being weak and whiny. Trying to talk back to it that it's just my depression makes me feel that is the the looking for excuses thing. ..I've had a lot of bad experiences from mental health professionals saying some hurtful and invalidating things. You've said we know our own experiences best and should not let others tell us otherwise, but I really feel like I don't know anymore. In retrospect I think the worse I feel the more I invalidate it myself in that situation.Any suggestions? Thank you so much for all your wonderful videos!

Elfie Ethereal

2017-03-03 13:24:02 +0000 UTC

Hey Kati! I got angry at my counsellor yesterday, I didn't mean to I just had a shit day and took it out on her

Siobhan

2017-02-18 21:22:11 +0000 UTC

Have you ever heard of PTSD night terrors resulting in short episodes of not being able to breathe? I'm not talking about difficulty breathing but a complete inability to get any air in, waking up from a nightmare only to find your throat feels strangled and your most desperate gasps can't get any air in. It's happened a couple times now this week, each time it lasted about 10-15 seconds. Not cool. I'll ask my therapist and doctor about it too but don't see them for a few more days. Just curious if you've ever heard of this; Google was unproductive. Thanks!

Lee McKenna

2017-02-18 15:36:24 +0000 UTC

Hey Kati, Do you have any suggestions on ways that I can track my moods or have a form you recommend? I have looked online but haven't found anything that fits. I have also tried apps, but prefer writing. For some reason, I am having a really hard time explaining/identifying my daily moods.

Katie Borkowski

2017-02-18 08:46:07 +0000 UTC

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I've been trying to work through everything in IOP and with my regular therapist and I guess I was just losing hope a little bit, so thank you for your reassurance that things can change. :)

Melanie Paul

2017-02-17 00:09:41 +0000 UTC

Are there things that feel good to you that you could do? For example, one of my clients give herself foot rubs or watches her favorite show... it can help her feel a bit better, even if it's only for 20 mins or so. Also, do you have a light box?? That can help and we only have to plug it in and turn it so it hits your face. Have you looked into those?? They can help with our depression too.. and I challenge you to make it to one group this week.. you got this!! I promise you will feel better after you go. xoxo Keep me posted honey!!

Kati Morton

2017-02-15 21:37:12 +0000 UTC

He is going to LOVE it!!! <3

Kati Morton

2017-02-15 21:34:47 +0000 UTC

Oh man. I will get on one again soon, I hope!

EJ

2017-02-15 02:28:57 +0000 UTC

Hi kati .I'm getting so frustrated with my fibromyalgia it's getting me more depression as I'm staying in my room. A lot I'm giving up groups one by one as so tired and pain.all I do is cbt with therpist. I really not sure how I can show self care to my self. With all the stuff I went though as a child I'm ashamed of what happened as did not relize it was wrong .I know now it makes me annoyed I never stopped it any ideas.carrie

Carrie Pilkington

2017-02-13 22:42:05 +0000 UTC

Kati sent parcel with back scratcher for Sean in it

Carrie Pilkington

2017-02-13 22:34:25 +0000 UTC

Thank you so so much for the support and advice Kati. xoxo

Emily

2017-02-13 21:46:27 +0000 UTC

Yes Kati it was very much so, thank you!

Dawn

2017-02-13 21:25:14 +0000 UTC

Hi Kati, thanks for your reply, I'm going to email her before my next session, I just don't want to be emailing her too much as I already have once this week. I need her to challenge and kind of encourage me more if that makes sense. I know that I should just be able to do it on my own but it's so hard to break my defences down. Xx

Keely Pearmain

2017-02-13 21:22:19 +0000 UTC

Kati, an update on my STEPPS group. It is going well! I am glad I have the opportunity to do it but it's very hard and a lot of work.

Jennifer Mackay

2017-02-13 21:19:03 +0000 UTC

Thankyou :)

Jennifer Mackay

2017-02-13 21:17:30 +0000 UTC

Ugh, I was hoping for an "no, anxiety cant lead to psychosis" answer, haha:/ Oh well, is there any warning signs to look out for? The inpatient place is not just for agoraphobia but its the same building I've been seeing my psyciatrist for a long time. They take patients with all kinds of mental illness as long as we're not a dangour to ourselfs or others. Its close to home and that helps a little as I would be able to even walk home if needed. I get that its not a good idea to run away, but it helps to know its possible :-) There is other treatmens centers that is for agoraphobia or anxiety disorders, but its about one hour away and their program is 12 weeks and I'm so not ready for that. Not yet :) I love the idea of a scale of anxiety, I think that would be super helpful. I'll bring it up in this weeks session. Thank you very much for taking the time to answer :-) I really appriciate you and everything you do. xoxo :-)

Mariiil

2017-02-13 20:53:46 +0000 UTC

Hey Keely :) I have to agree with Brandy.. losing our voice can be part of our freeze response. I would try to let your therapist know about this.. maybe in an email or by writing it down.. and hopefully she will understand. Cause otherwise we may need to find you a trauma specialist or someone who is more willing to work with you on finding your voice again :) Oh and work on creating a resiliency box (the one I talk about with Alexa in our grounding techniques video) that could help too :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:43:32 +0000 UTC

Thankyou so much, what you described is so me! So glad not to feel alone in all this

Mags

2017-02-13 20:41:31 +0000 UTC

In my experience this feeling comes from the trauma.. and never feeling like we had a solid foundation or happy future (because the trauma keeps happening and upsetting us over and over). Processing through the trauma at a healthy pace for you will change your outlook for the future. Trust me.. I know it's hard work, but it does get better!! xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:41:12 +0000 UTC

Oh and trust me, your therapist is going to be fine with you crying.. honest!! We have people cry every day.. it's something we are used to and know how to handle :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:39:19 +0000 UTC

It's very normal to not want to cry.. or not be able to cry. I would start by talking about this in therapy.. and why you haven't had good experiences in the past. By working through those, it will be a bit easier and feel a bit safer to try and cry. Then I usually have my clients watch something sad or set aside time to cry that week.. I know this sounds weird, but give it a try. I promise it does work :) And know that it can take time, but it will slowly get easier :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:38:44 +0000 UTC

Thanks Kati

Mags

2017-02-13 20:38:29 +0000 UTC

Thank you so much!!

Sara Gauthier

2017-02-13 20:37:28 +0000 UTC

Sending extra love and hugs your way :) xoxo It will get better!! You got this!!

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:36:52 +0000 UTC

We don't always have to confront the person who does something inappropriate to us.. but we can talk about it in therapy, process through it, and not spend time with them. You deserve to feel safe wherever you are, and if he can't respect you and your boundaries, then you don't have to be around him. If your sister asks why you aren't coming to something you can tell her what happened and how upsetting it was. She can deny it all she wants or say what she will say, but you have the right to say no and not hang out with them. I honestly think the talking it out in therapy and with other supportive people will help the most :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:36:33 +0000 UTC

Hey Sara :) It's very normal to feel too attached to our therapist when they are our only support. I would honestly bring this up in your next session and talk about it. This is really common, and what I usually have my clients do is try to find ways to build up other supports (like a friend at work or school or a teacher, school counselor, etc). It can take time, but by having more than one support, you don't feel so attached to your therapist. And that way you also won't worry about not seeing her in the future. You can instead enjoy the relationship and how it can help you feel better. xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:33:46 +0000 UTC

In truth, you can write it down or just say it like you said it to me. There isn't any right or wrong way to say it. The important part is just letting them know you are having a hard time. xoxo I have all my clients who struggle with ED behaviors see a dietitian, but inpatient would be something I would recommend if they aren't getting any better working with me once or twice a week. xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:31:19 +0000 UTC

That is so common!! It's usually because it not only makes the ED behaviors easier to do, but it's also like we are punishing or harming ourselves with the food. I find my clients do this most when they are struggling with a stressful or anger filled situation, but they don't feel like they can express any of it outwardly. I would bring this up in therapy and see if you can talk through some of what you are feeling.. and find healthier ways to express it :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:29:54 +0000 UTC

I have a few vids on this!! Here they are <a href="https://youtu.be/SR23MmKTbn4" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://youtu.be/SR23MmKTbn4</a> <a href="https://youtu.be/zeImkvNXueg" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://youtu.be/zeImkvNXueg</a> Let me know if those help! xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:27:42 +0000 UTC

In truth, you can't do anything other than be there for her. She has to want to get better and do the work herself. Something that could help you is going to Al-Anon.. it can help to have a safe place to talk about how all of this makes you feel.. and it's free :) Know that you have to protect yourself and your own mental health. It's up to her to do the same for herself.. just being there and checking in with her is enough. Honest! xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:26:45 +0000 UTC

It can make it more vulnerable for us.. or feel a bit too invasive. Something I try with my clients is noticing when they feel the urge to look away.. and try to bring them back and have them look at my chair.. then my arm.. maybe my ear.. and then eyes. Working their way to it so they know they don't have to, but then we are slowly building trust. I also agree with how Keely said it :) So give yourself time, it does get easier! xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:25:00 +0000 UTC

I am so proud of you for telling her!!!! xoxo You are so strong and amazing :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:22:59 +0000 UTC

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. You are right to limit your contact with her while she is drinking. It's hard, but she has to want to get better.. if she doesn't, there isn't anything you can do, and being there for her can actually make it worse. It's all part of the co-dependance that comes along with addiction. I would also look into attending Al-Anon if you can because it's great for those of use who have an alcoholic in our family. It will help you see that you have to take care of yourself first and that we can't force them to get better. xoxo Hang in there honey!! xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:21:55 +0000 UTC

Hey Sofie :) I think it really comes down to 2 things.. building up self worth and having boundaries. If we feel confident in ourselves and know what we are worth, then we will know when we cannot give anymore and we will have the strength to set up safe boundaries. I would focus on writing down 5 things you love about yourself or are grateful for at the end of each day :) I think that's a great place to start.. before trying to create boundaries with your friends. xoxo Keep me posted!

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:19:45 +0000 UTC

It can definitely be both!! If they were absent.. in a way they were neglecting you and that is abuse too. Either way you weren't getting your needs met. xox

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:17:10 +0000 UTC

Of course that makes sense!! It's almost like we are so used to being ill that if we make any progress we immediately feel bad and want to go back. That is so normal! I would bring it up in therapy and talk about it.. it usually has to do with building up self esteem and processing through the fear of being okay. But know that it's very common.. and it does go away :) xox

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:16:23 +0000 UTC

They can last pretty long.. in truth, everyone is different. But I have had clients who have talked about days going by without them coming out of it. I would talk to your therapist about this so you can work on grounding techniques and maybe going slower so you don't dissociate so often. xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:14:44 +0000 UTC

Happy Birthday!! Sorry I didn't see this during the livestream :( xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:13:39 +0000 UTC

I hope my answer on the livestream was helpful :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:12:57 +0000 UTC

Awe so happy to help honey :) In truth, empathy for ourselves actually comes out of self worth. I would encourage you to start taking note of how you talk to yourself. Write it down.. the good the bad and the ugly. Then I encourage you to write down any good thoughts on post it's and put those up. Then talk back to the negative ones with a positive.. maybe say the positive one a few times :) We have to build up your self worth so that you feel deserving of love and empathy. xoxox

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:12:38 +0000 UTC

I totally understand.. setting boundaries can be hard at first. and in truth, we have to find healthy ways to interact. It will feel off and not quite right at first, but stick with it :) Think of new things you can do together or more structured hang outs (like hiking together or going to lunch, etc) so that there is a beginning and an end. It's normal for it to not feel good, we are changing the way we interact with family. But I promise if you stick with it and find other ways to connect, it will start to feel better :) xxoo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:10:15 +0000 UTC

I hope my answer on Friday's livestream was helpful :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:08:29 +0000 UTC

You definitely can! In a way it's our minds way of coping when we feel too overwhelmed. It could be overwhelmed by anxiety or just feeling like our senses are overloaded. xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:08:12 +0000 UTC

I hope my answer on the livestream was helpful :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:07:24 +0000 UTC

Hey Carrie :) I have to agree with Rachel. It's more about doing thing you enjoy versus thinking that you have to like yourself.. are there things that make you happy? Or things you look forward to? It could be as simple as not talking to anyone for part of a day, or watching your favorite tv show reruns. Or maybe coloring.. or taking a bath :) Try to think of things that you like to do and what makes you happy :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:05:37 +0000 UTC

Hey Mari :) I am so sorry you are having such a hard time :( Ugh! Yes we can get high levels of anxiety that lead to psychosis.. but it doesn't sound like that yet. It sounds like you do need a different or more intensive type of treatment. Is this inpatient place for those with agoraphobia?? Cause if it is, I would definitely work to get yourself there. if you have extra supportive people, have them help you get and stay there. Use your calming or relaxation tools as much as you need and take your time getting there. As for how to keep working in therapy, it sounds like you may be being forced to go too fast right now.. like you maybe need to slow down for a bit so you can stay present and not dissociate or get too anxious. Could you work with your therapist to come up with a scale of anxiety so she can check in with you periodically throughout session?? In my opinion, that would be the only way for therapy to keep working for you.. cause otherwise it sounds like it's just too much to tolerate. xoxo I hope that helps!

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:04:07 +0000 UTC

I haven't had a chance to watch yet! I can't wait! Thank you so much!

Emily Williams

2017-02-13 20:01:20 +0000 UTC

I hope my answer on the livestream was helpful and validating :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 20:00:01 +0000 UTC

I hope my answer on the livestream was helpful :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 19:59:10 +0000 UTC

I hope my answer on the livestream was helpful and validating :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-13 19:58:26 +0000 UTC

Happy birthday!!! Hope you're well :)

Sara Gauthier

2017-02-13 00:06:24 +0000 UTC

Thanks, yeah I always feel bad though my take on it is that he is saying he can't help me if I don't look at him. Then my thoughts just spiral...I'm useless, no one can help me, he doesn't really want to help me, I'm wasting his time, he must think I'm stupid, I should just walk out and never come back. The thoughts are endless but I have to admit he's the first person that has actually asked about my anxiety symptoms which actually made me feel worse bit I wasn't really sure why he asked when I'm there for anxiety???!!! I don't know why the symptoms are important to him my last therapist never asked. I don't know if it's because I'm under a team now and they are trying to figure out a solid diagnosis since there is a psychiatrist he works with in that team, I just don't know why it's important for me to talk about when it makes me feel worse? X

Amy S

2017-02-12 23:30:09 +0000 UTC

Hi Kati. I am still having difficulty talking to my mum about her excessive and sneaky drinking habits. I am considering talking to her one-on-one and mentioning that I think she needs to go talk to someone as it is becoming dangerous. Also her behaviours are triggering me and not doing any good to my recovery. I know she will deny there is a problem and so I am considering limiting contact with her until she decides to get help as a way to protect myself. I don't know whether or not this is the right way when dealing with a situation like this as I feel like it's almost like a threat but I cannot involve myself with her if she is going to continue with lying about her drinking. If she does decide to get help, I am more than happy to be supportive of her and be there when she needs me, however, I am trying my best to take care of myself but I feel as if I need to make myself clear to her that I cannot be around a person who I cannot trust anymore... would appreciate any advice as I feel like a bad person.

Bridgette Hall-Smith

2017-02-12 23:01:05 +0000 UTC

Hi Kati. Do you have any tips for how to handle both being overly empathetic and hyper sensitive? I just feel like I get overloaded so easily, but I don't want to not help my friends! This really relates to the newest video you just posted. And also, thank you so much for all your amazing videos! Your argument that you don't have to be really sick to get help got me to reach out to my GP in order to get referred to a psychologist! Feeling kind of nervous but hoping it will be good. :) Hugs!

Sofie Peschardt

2017-02-12 22:57:29 +0000 UTC

Thankyou :)

Jennifer Mackay

2017-02-12 22:47:22 +0000 UTC

Awww! Okay I seriously needed this!! Thank you for your comment. Yes it was really good to hear that from Kati. Right now I just started seeing a new trauma specialist and she believes I have it or at least some form of severe Dissociative disorder so she is taking me through the diagnosis process and understanding it. However I find it's really scary to accept or understand because there is so much stigma around it and the controversy makes me feel like some people think I am lying or faking it if I were to believe what they say online. Like I know they aren't saying it about me but it makes me doubt what's going on for me or my experiences when there is so many controversial things online about it. I have been feeling really overwhelmed with all of this as it's really intimidating. I am so grateful for your comment. Thank you! I am sending you caring thoughts and wish you the best for you and your journey! xx

Dawn

2017-02-12 21:43:43 +0000 UTC

Happy birthday hun xxx

Hailey

2017-02-12 21:41:30 +0000 UTC

Oops I wrote on the wrong post. Haha. Anyway, How long can a dissociation episode last? I had a pretty bad dissociation episode a few days ago during my therapy session and I have yet been able to shake it off.

Brittanyann

2017-02-12 21:40:48 +0000 UTC

Hey Kati, first thanx for always giving great responses x My question is, I've finally been making some progress in therapy and starting to trust my therapist after a year or so. Noticing that I actually am moving forward and it scares the shit out of me. Idk like we had a session where it was chilled and there was no emergency safety plan or planning ahead and it confused me. For the first time in years I've noticed that I don't feel like I will commit suicide at some point but it's an option not a definite and idk if I like it. I should be happy? I feel like whenever I have tiny progress I feel like I'm all better and that's it and having to remind myself that I am still ill and I'm not at a place to do full time education or job or stuff. Idk if that makes sense? Thanx

Hailey

2017-02-12 21:40:08 +0000 UTC

Wasn't it good to hear Kati say she does believe? I experience dissociation, i'm waiting for a diagnosis but my care team are talking me through the symptoms i'm having and getting me a referal. I wish it wasn't so controversial, it might be easier to accept whats been going on for most of my life. Just know you're not alone if this is affecting you too xx

Mags

2017-02-12 21:37:26 +0000 UTC

It's my birthday! It's been a bit rubbish please say happy birthday to me :) will make my day

Jennifer Mackay

2017-02-12 21:34:41 +0000 UTC

Could you talk about dealing with an alcoholic friend? We're both 26, and since I'm stable she's now living with me. I called her out on spending rent money on alcohol and she asked for help. I told her I'd drive her to a therapist, but now she's "processing" everything and it's been about a week, I know she can't stop drinking by herself for safety reasons, but she seems to be using the possibility of quitting to be drinking as much as possible until then. What should I do next? I have my own therapist and working on anxiety and depression myself, so I know I can't hold her hand too much.

Kate Q

2017-02-12 21:20:05 +0000 UTC

Can you have both an emotionally abusive and emotionally absent mother or can it only be one?

Carys Lewington

2017-02-12 20:27:59 +0000 UTC

For the Sunday Livestream....How do we stop isolating? I haven't been wanting to be social or around people since Decemeber. I used to go biking all the time and I haven't gone in months. I feel completely drained when I have to go places. I don't know what's wrong with me; I used to be outside all the time and I completely refuse now. Even at school now I will "hide" from my friends and I don't know why. What can I do to get myself back to the way it was? Thanks Kati!! You rock!

Jennifer Hall

2017-02-12 19:54:26 +0000 UTC

No problem! I hope it works out for you!

Brandy Marette

2017-02-12 19:05:10 +0000 UTC

Thank you for your reply Hun, getting another therapist at the moment isn't a possibility, the issue is with me and not necessarily her. I need to try and open up more x

Keely Pearmain

2017-02-12 18:32:52 +0000 UTC

SUNDAY LIVESTREAM: Oh Kati 😕 feel like I'm in such a pickle!! See my counsellor tomorrow and I'm so stressed out (all night last night dreamt I was late or missed the appt!) . I know that if I tell her that truth about a SH event this week, it will scare her - and I'm feeling sure that even not telling her and letting her know the rest, I will end up at hospital 😔 I don't want attention or even, any help. But I can't not lie as I'm such an honest person 😕 what do I do?

Nicky Fitch

2017-02-12 17:12:27 +0000 UTC

Hi Keely! I'm Brandy and after reading your question, I just felt like I needed to answer. I'm actually studying speech-language pathology and in my voice disorders class, we are learning about how trauma can cause people to lose their voice. So therefore, it it not your fault at all that you are having trouble verbalizing some of your emotional problems. Also, I don't understand why your therapist won't let you write it down. As a future speech therapist, I know that verbal communication is not the only way of communication and your therapist should let you communicate in a way that works for you. I have seen counselors before and I have written out personal traumatic events in my life, which led to a conversation. I don't agree with your therapist and I really believe that you should be able to write it down if you feel the need. Often that would then lead to a conversation. Also, the fact that you just started therapy also may be part of it. You need time to develop trust with that counselor, but I really think that counselor should be open to written communication as well. Also, since you just started therapy, you may want to look into trying another therapist. There may be someone out there who can better reach your needs! Good luck!

Brandy Marette

2017-02-12 16:30:06 +0000 UTC

Hi Hun I have this same issue, I struggle to even look towards her let alone give her eye contact. I was the same with my last therapist but nearer the end I was able to look at her and give her eye contact, part of me thinks it's about trust and feeling vulnerable. I'm not sure but that's just my opinion Hun xx hopefully it will get easier for you x

Keely Pearmain

2017-02-12 09:36:11 +0000 UTC

This is really stupid but I've started seeing a new therapist. At the second appointment he asked me if I realised that I very rarely look at him when we are speaking. Sometimes I find it overwhelming; why can a simple thing like eye contact be such an issue? Thanks x

Amy S

2017-02-11 23:39:01 +0000 UTC

Hi Kati, I had a really good day yesterday with the live stream etc. Today has been awful, but I suppose I've got to ride he rough with the smooth. After starting therapy a couple of weeks ago, Thursday was my 2nd session. It was filled with a lot of awkward silences because I really do struggle with talking, I can talk about others but when it comes to myself I'm absolutely stuck.. I cannot find any words and my mind goes blank. I have emailed her some issues that I struggle to bring up, But she has expressed that I have to verbalise these issues and at the moment I just can't, I try but I basically lose my voice. She won't let me write things down either. Do you have any ideas of how I can't get over this fear? I've tried so hard to talk to myself but I can't even say the words out loud for some of the things as I start to shake and panic. I want to get better and I'll put everything into it, but I just cannot physically find the words or get them out. I can't deal with another awkward silence for the best part of 40mins. Thanks in advanced and I hope that Sean and yourself are good x I'm going to try and get on the stream tomorrow even if I don't participate much xx take care and I love you both xx

Keely Pearmain

2017-02-11 21:24:05 +0000 UTC

I have C-PTSD and I have a lot of difficulty imagining my life progressing at all or imagining any sort of future for myself. Is this sense of foreshortened future something I just have to learn to deal with or is there some way I can try to challenge it? Also, do you know why trauma tends to result in this? Thank you!

Melanie Paul

2017-02-11 21:04:00 +0000 UTC

Tina!!! I am almost in the very same spot (meaning I have gotten 'slightly' more emotional in therapy) but not much more at all. Hang in there and message me if you ever wanna talk. So, therefore, KATI! Please answer this. I'd love to hear the advice.

Manda Mandrell

2017-02-11 15:34:31 +0000 UTC

Thank you Kati.

Amy

2017-02-11 12:37:09 +0000 UTC

Hey Kati, I am really struggling expressing my emotions in therapy. The past few times, I keep feeling like I want to cry but I haven't been able to allow myself to cry. And I know it's partly because crying in the past has never been a positive experience for me. So I am scared of how my therapist will respond. I know ultimately to keep moving forward in my progress, need some form of emotional expression to take place. What would be your thoughts and your advice surrounding this? Thanks! ☺️

Tina

2017-02-11 07:27:37 +0000 UTC

do something that YOU like to do.....take time out and surround yourself with everything to do with you :) it may feel weird at first but you will feel beer afterwards......even if you just go for coffee alone and read a book or take a walk xox

Rachel Rae

2017-02-11 07:21:11 +0000 UTC

I would definately say so, from experience I'd say my anger triggers a lot of my anxiety.....people always feel ashamed to admit they are angry.....but it's an emotion and it doesn't make you a terrible person to feel angry :)

Rachel Rae

2017-02-11 07:18:41 +0000 UTC

I feel the same way! It's so easy to feel lost but please find comfort in knowing you are not alone :) take each day as it comes....there were times when I thought I could not make it through but I did, here I am still standing.....look at yourself in the mirror and be proud, it takes a strong individual to go through the daily struggles that we face and in the long run it makes you who you are.....a kind, warm hearted, relatable person and whoever says otherwise is either lying or not fucking human! ;) chin up chick xox

Rachel Rae

2017-02-11 07:12:55 +0000 UTC

Thanks Kati, appreciate it a lot. Yeah the answer was helpful :) thank you

Letitia.L

2017-02-11 03:21:28 +0000 UTC

To be honest -- I have so many questions but I keep forgetting them. I am under so much stress right now that honestly I am just trying to make it each second of the day, I can't even go as far as saying minute. So if y'all could just be thinking of me. I seem to be getting triggered by the absolute smallest things and some of them don't even make sense. So I am just here. Trying to survive the best I can. Thank you for all you do! You're amazing.

Manda Mandrell

2017-02-11 01:18:12 +0000 UTC

I hope my answer on Friday's broadcast was helpful :) xox

Kati Morton

2017-02-10 22:32:36 +0000 UTC

I hope my answer on Friday's broadcast was helpful :) xoxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-10 22:32:23 +0000 UTC

I am going to look into this more (like I said on the livestream) and I hope my answer was at least a but helpful :) xxo

Kati Morton

2017-02-10 22:31:58 +0000 UTC

The question you just answered on the livestream about the girl being kissed by her dad reminded me. I have been thinking about it the last couple of days, my sister's bf of 5 years has always been a bit flirty, which was tollerable, but i don't really like, but over christmas he was drunk and it just went to another level that made me uncomfotable and i didn't know what to say or do in the moment. I had forgotten about it till the last couple of weeks. he came up behind me and rubbed my backside. I tried to laugh it off and stepped away, but he continued. This was right infront of my sister, she said and did nothing, and i didn't feel safe telling him i felt violated. I don't feel like i can say anything now, honest I feel violated and i can't get it out of my head this week. I just don't think saying or doing anything is going to help.

Mags

2017-02-10 21:19:00 +0000 UTC

Could you talk about depersonalization/derealization please? What can cause it, why it happens and how treatable is it? Thank you :)

Zoe D

2017-02-10 20:15:32 +0000 UTC

Hey Kati, I'm a bit conflicted. I see my therapist once a week, and I used to only go because my mom forced me an I hated therapists but this one makes me feel so welcome and normal. But now if she ever cancels or I have to miss an appointment I feel very lost and alone. She's my only support right now. Sometimes I feel like calling and telling her I don't want to come anymore because I hate how much I rely on her and how much I need therapy to keep me at bay but I also really love it and want to do it forever but I also know she can't be there for me forever and eventually we'll have to part. I don't know what to do, and why I feel so strongly about both leaving and staying. Please help?

Sara Gauthier

2017-02-10 20:14:49 +0000 UTC

to bring up an eating problem (not eating enough) to my therapist? Also when would someone have to have a dietian and maybe be in in-patient? Btw I love your livestreams! I won't be on next week though because I'll be at Katsucon. <3

OfficialLilac

2017-02-10 20:12:35 +0000 UTC

Hi Kati, Thank you so much for your videos and help. I struggle with bulimia. I am lactose intolerant but every time I use behaviors and binge I tend to binge on all dairy. I'm not sure what to do about this or why. Thank you!

Abby Kinslow

2017-02-10 16:39:09 +0000 UTC

I've been having such a hard time with triggers lately. It seems like EVERYTHING triggers me. Like I would totally ask a question that's really upsetting/bothering me - but at the same time, just thinking about it is making it triggering. UGH!

Manda Mandrell

2017-02-10 14:21:27 +0000 UTC

Hi Kati, I have just watched your video on empathy, (great video by the way.☺)and it got me thinking about stuff in my life. I think I have empathy towards others, I find myself trying really hard to be there for people when they are going through a hard time, and give everything I have to try and help with whatever it is they are going through. But I find when I find myself in a similar position or I am having a crappy time, I have no tolerance for me as a person or the situation I find myself in, like I must have caused it in some way!?? I find that towards others I am warm and caring but towards myself I am cold and heartless, so I guess my question is how do I show empathy towards myself in times when I need it??? Thank you so much for all your help and support, the world is a better place because of you. xoxo

Emily

2017-02-10 10:28:40 +0000 UTC

Hey Kati, i have nightmares most nights and most mornings i wake up with new bruises, scratches, bite marks or some sort of self-harm. Do you know ehats causing these or any tips to make it stop?

Letitia.L

2017-02-10 09:49:36 +0000 UTC

Awesome question. When I am feeling really overwhelmed and get really stressed, I tune out. There are times in counseling that I will feel myself shut down, I can still talk but when I am calm, it's like I wasn't even there. I do not recall everything I said or what they told me. My counselor told me that it was dissociation. I got scared because I didn't think that was normal. She told me that everyone does it. Like when you are driving home and miss your turn because you are so tuned out, that's dissociation. Maybe/possibly it sounds like it might be something that just happens to everyone but in different forms? I was looking on Kati's YouTube yesterday for videos on the topic. You should check them out if you haven't seen them yet. Makes me feel a little better that I am not to only one experiencing it!

Katie Borkowski

2017-02-10 07:03:35 +0000 UTC

Good question! I have the same issue but with my dad. It makes things so awkward. This would be a good video idea.

Katie Borkowski

2017-02-10 06:48:16 +0000 UTC

I am working on setting boundaries with my family but it is causing me to feel disconnected from them. They do not understand my change and I am finding it hard to find ways to connect with them. I understand that they are usually toxic, and that it's not my job to change them but it hurts and it is hard to feel so disconnected. As weird as it sounds, I would rather have them treat me like shit because I miss them.

Katie Borkowski

2017-02-10 06:46:37 +0000 UTC

Hey Kati. :) I am suppose to be in my older sister's wedding, but my mom will be in it too. I haven't talked to my mom in almost three months. I have no intention to talk to her. How do I deal with her also being in the wedding? I have mixed feelings about being in the wedding. I'm thinking I should have said no. My older siblings don't talk to me very often now that I don't talk to my mom. Any advice?

May Unmade

2017-02-10 05:49:11 +0000 UTC

Hey, Kati! :) What do you think is a/the way to get rid of botanophobia? Exposure therapy sounds really scary and ... hard. Also, what do we do if there are triggering objects/images in the therapists's office? Thanks, Nikki R.

Nikoleta Rangelova

2017-02-10 04:22:04 +0000 UTC

My question is: I have been in therapy for 4 years already, this year is my 5th and I have been struggling with mental health issues during this period of time. I still have things to work on in therapy, does that mean I might not be symptom free and happy ever, considering it has been this long?

Amy

2017-02-10 01:50:24 +0000 UTC

Kayla, I don't know. But from personal experience, I dissociate when I feel overwhelmed by whatever that is happening in me, emotions and thoughts usually or my poor mental state. These causes me to feel spacey and disconnected from the world. I have somewhat a trauma history but not serious trauma is a lot of fear and confusion in my past. Hope that helps a little.

Amy

2017-02-10 01:48:26 +0000 UTC

Sorry! Second question - this was one people on the forum had expressed interest in: Can people have dissociation without any history of trauma or traumatic experience?

Kayla Clare

2017-02-09 23:47:07 +0000 UTC

Hi Kati! After growing up in a dysfunctional family and dealing with a lot emotional abuse (some physical in the family), I struggle a lot with trusting my own thoughts and feelings. And I feel like I'm ready to work on this in therapy but at the same time I feel like I can't bring it up to my therapist unless she or someone tells me it was really abuse. Like I want my therapist to confirm it was abuse in order for me to feel like its worthy of me talking about it but at the same time she can't confirm it if I don't tell her.... She knows I have dissociation and I've hinted around the subject and I think she sorta knows. She's said things like "I think when you were a kid you sometimes felt very scared at home and that's why you dissociate." But I still feel like I can't fully admit it until someone validates it. Any advice on how to get past this?

Kayla Clare

2017-02-09 23:46:08 +0000 UTC

Hi kati .I'm in therapy CBT.MY. therpist wants me to work on self care and compassion to myself .but I've never liked my self as reject lot as a child how can I learn to care for myself x

Carrie Pilkington

2017-02-09 22:01:14 +0000 UTC

During my last therapy session, my therapist brought up that maybe my anxiety stems from anger. This is something that never really crossed my mind before because while I definitely struggle a lot with anxiety, I never really thought of myself as an angry person before. What are your thoughts? Can anger and anxiety be connected?

Rachel B

2017-02-09 21:51:01 +0000 UTC

Hi Kati! I'm struggeling with agoraphobia and have been in therapy for a few years now. For a while I was slowly getting better, but now I just feel stuck. Therapy is super hard, I'm so scared to let my feelings show and instead of any "bad" emotion I get super anxious or dissociate. This week my psychiatrist suggested me to stay there as inpatient for a couple of days but just he mentioning it made me all shaky and sweaty. I'm so scared, havent been sleeping away for many years and I'm terrified it will get too much and make me more sick. Is it possible to slip into a psychosis or go "crazy" from too much anxiety? Do you have any advice on how to be able to keep working in therapy?

Mariiil

2017-02-09 20:56:12 +0000 UTC

Why is DID so controversial? Do you believe it exists? Thank you for all that do you Kati! xx

Dawn

2017-02-09 20:36:12 +0000 UTC

Hi Kati! I'm at an awkward part of ED recovery (Anorexia, but I never got underweight) where my weight is up and healthy and I'm eating normally... but I hate my body so so much. Do you have any tips for the body acceptance part of this?

Emily Williams

2017-02-09 20:32:05 +0000 UTC

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Hello Kati, I am considering subscribing for online therapy. Any things I should keep in mind or tips? Thank you and cheers from Estonia :)

Hey Kati! I got angry at my counsellor yesterday, I didn't mean to I just had a shit day and took it out on her

Hey Kati, Do you have any suggestions on ways that I can track my moods or have a form you recommend? I have looked online but haven't found anything that fits. I have also tried apps, but prefer writing. For some reason, I am having a really hard time explaining/identifying my daily moods.

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I've been trying to work through everything in IOP and with my regular therapist and I guess I was just losing hope a little bit, so thank you for your reassurance that things can change. :)

He is going to LOVE it!!! <3

Oh man. I will get on one again soon, I hope!

Kati sent parcel with back scratcher for Sean in it

Thank you so so much for the support and advice Kati. xoxo

Yes Kati it was very much so, thank you!

Kati, an update on my STEPPS group. It is going well! I am glad I have the opportunity to do it but it's very hard and a lot of work.

Thankyou :)

Thankyou so much, what you described is so me! So glad not to feel alone in all this

Oh and trust me, your therapist is going to be fine with you crying.. honest!! We have people cry every day.. it's something we are used to and know how to handle :) xoxo

Thanks Kati

Thank you so much!!

Sending extra love and hugs your way :) xoxo It will get better!! You got this!!

I have a few vids on this!! Here they are <a href="https://youtu.be/SR23MmKTbn4" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://youtu.be/SR23MmKTbn4</a> <a href="https://youtu.be/zeImkvNXueg" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://youtu.be/zeImkvNXueg</a> Let me know if those help! xoxo

I am so proud of you for telling her!!!! xoxo You are so strong and amazing :) xoxo

It can definitely be both!! If they were absent.. in a way they were neglecting you and that is abuse too. Either way you weren't getting your needs met. xox

They can last pretty long.. in truth, everyone is different. But I have had clients who have talked about days going by without them coming out of it. I would talk to your therapist about this so you can work on grounding techniques and maybe going slower so you don't dissociate so often. xoxo

Happy Birthday!! Sorry I didn't see this during the livestream :( xoxo

I hope my answer on the livestream was helpful :) xoxo

I hope my answer on Friday's livestream was helpful :) xoxo

You definitely can! In a way it's our minds way of coping when we feel too overwhelmed. It could be overwhelmed by anxiety or just feeling like our senses are overloaded. xoxo

I hope my answer on the livestream was helpful :) xoxo

I haven't had a chance to watch yet! I can't wait! Thank you so much!

I hope my answer on the livestream was helpful and validating :) xoxo

I hope my answer on the livestream was helpful :) xoxo

I hope my answer on the livestream was helpful and validating :) xoxo

Happy birthday!!! Hope you're well :)

Thankyou :)

Happy birthday hun xxx

Oops I wrote on the wrong post. Haha. Anyway, How long can a dissociation episode last? I had a pretty bad dissociation episode a few days ago during my therapy session and I have yet been able to shake it off.

It's my birthday! It's been a bit rubbish please say happy birthday to me :) will make my day

Can you have both an emotionally abusive and emotionally absent mother or can it only be one?

No problem! I hope it works out for you!

Thank you for your reply Hun, getting another therapist at the moment isn't a possibility, the issue is with me and not necessarily her. I need to try and open up more x

This is really stupid but I've started seeing a new therapist. At the second appointment he asked me if I realised that I very rarely look at him when we are speaking. Sometimes I find it overwhelming; why can a simple thing like eye contact be such an issue? Thanks x

Tina!!! I am almost in the very same spot (meaning I have gotten 'slightly' more emotional in therapy) but not much more at all. Hang in there and message me if you ever wanna talk. So, therefore, KATI! Please answer this. I'd love to hear the advice.

Thank you Kati.

do something that YOU like to do.....take time out and surround yourself with everything to do with you :) it may feel weird at first but you will feel beer afterwards......even if you just go for coffee alone and read a book or take a walk xox

I would definately say so, from experience I'd say my anger triggers a lot of my anxiety.....people always feel ashamed to admit they are angry.....but it's an emotion and it doesn't make you a terrible person to feel angry :)

Thanks Kati, appreciate it a lot. Yeah the answer was helpful :) thank you

I hope my answer on Friday's broadcast was helpful :) xox

I hope my answer on Friday's broadcast was helpful :) xoxo

I am going to look into this more (like I said on the livestream) and I hope my answer was at least a but helpful :) xxo

Could you talk about depersonalization/derealization please? What can cause it, why it happens and how treatable is it? Thank you :)

to bring up an eating problem (not eating enough) to my therapist? Also when would someone have to have a dietian and maybe be in in-patient? Btw I love your livestreams! I won't be on next week though because I'll be at Katsucon. <3

Hi Kati, Thank you so much for your videos and help. I struggle with bulimia. I am lactose intolerant but every time I use behaviors and binge I tend to binge on all dairy. I'm not sure what to do about this or why. Thank you!

I've been having such a hard time with triggers lately. It seems like EVERYTHING triggers me. Like I would totally ask a question that's really upsetting/bothering me - but at the same time, just thinking about it is making it triggering. UGH!

Hey Kati, i have nightmares most nights and most mornings i wake up with new bruises, scratches, bite marks or some sort of self-harm. Do you know ehats causing these or any tips to make it stop?

Good question! I have the same issue but with my dad. It makes things so awkward. This would be a good video idea.

Hey, Kati! :) What do you think is a/the way to get rid of botanophobia? Exposure therapy sounds really scary and ... hard. Also, what do we do if there are triggering objects/images in the therapists's office? Thanks, Nikki R.

My question is: I have been in therapy for 4 years already, this year is my 5th and I have been struggling with mental health issues during this period of time. I still have things to work on in therapy, does that mean I might not be symptom free and happy ever, considering it has been this long?

Sorry! Second question - this was one people on the forum had expressed interest in: Can people have dissociation without any history of trauma or traumatic experience?

Hi kati .I'm in therapy CBT.MY. therpist wants me to work on self care and compassion to myself .but I've never liked my self as reject lot as a child how can I learn to care for myself x

Why is DID so controversial? Do you believe it exists? Thank you for all that do you Kati! xx

Hi Kati! I'm at an awkward part of ED recovery (Anorexia, but I never got underweight) where my weight is up and healthy and I'm eating normally... but I hate my body so so much. Do you have any tips for the body acceptance part of this?

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