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Added 2017-04-28 03:55:08 +0000 UTCSorry for the late post, but I know I said I would take some questions from here on Friday! So here's your chance! Ask them in the comments below and I will try to get through as many as I can on the livestream! I hope I see you tomorrow!! xoxo younow.com/katimorton
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It really helped, thank you so much!! I told my best friend and she is really supportive :)
Simone Buck
2017-05-03 15:19:07 +0000 UTCAlso, know that you don't have to be able to help yourself to be a therapist.. but you do have to be taking care of your own mental health as well... that's why therapist's see other therapists!! xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 22:58:24 +0000 UTCHey Toni :) great question! The truth is that you can be a counselor or social worker even if you have mental health issues yourself, but if it's not something you came up with on your own, I would be a bit hesitant. Just like any career path, I would consider what it is you like doing or not doing; what you would like about the job, your concerns about it, etc. Take the time to consider it and see if you really want to go that route. When it comes to being a mental health professional I think it's a really rewarding job, but it can be taxing, and when we struggle ourselves just make sure you don't let your self care slide. If you like listening and enjoy working with people to better manage their relationships and lives, it's a great option!! Oh and just consider the time in school, gathering hours, and the cost of all of that. It can be a lot, so I just want to make sure you are prepared for that too :) xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 22:56:14 +0000 UTCThat is a lot to take in!! I would feel overwhelmed too! Have you taken a look at my videos on these diagnosis and tried to decide what it is you think you struggle with? I always try to empower my clients to tell me what they feel fits their symptoms best.. that way we make sure we are on the same page with diagnosis. Yes you can have all of these diagnosis, but I honestly think it's more likely that you have PTSD and the depression and anxiety as well as BPD like symptoms are all as a result of that.. but watch my videos on it and let me know :) As for treatment, I would try trauma therapy (not EMDR) but just talk therapy with a trauma specialist. I only say this because trauma tends to be the culprit for a lot of other symptoms.. so maybe working on that will help all the other things too :) xxoo I hope that helps a bit!! xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 22:52:47 +0000 UTCIt did, thank you!!
Nicky Fitch
2017-05-01 22:33:43 +0000 UTCYou can always call the pharmacy and speak with the pharmacist directly as well :) Hugs!!
Heather S.
2017-05-01 20:49:30 +0000 UTCIt was, yes! Thanks for answering it. And thanks the kinions too. I never thought of using apps. Sometimes I think I'm still living in the 90's and forget that phones can do that 😁
Robyn Mathie
2017-05-01 20:27:19 +0000 UTCI already have a therapist and we've talked about my family quite a bit - nothing has really helped with the desire to find some sort of parental figure though. I always suppress it, but it just lingers there. I will look into that book, thanks! And I'm so sorry about hurting your hand!!! <3
Kayla Clare
2017-05-01 20:24:50 +0000 UTCThanks my doctor is a total idiot and didn't listen as always but I will try make it to the pharmacy one day this week
Juniejunebug
2017-05-01 20:14:09 +0000 UTCHey honey!! Here is an older vid of mine that might help :) Let me know via message if you need more tips!! xoxo <a href="https://youtu.be/pb3ii5lq0jM" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://youtu.be/pb3ii5lq0jM</a>
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 20:04:04 +0000 UTCI talked about inpatient on the livestream a bit.. and even about going into the hospital. I hope that that was helpful :) As for the anxiety you are feeling.. I would first try progressive relaxation.. they have videos of it on youtube and you only need to do it for 20 mins or so. That can help calm our system down. Then I would try the exposure therapy techniques where you imagine yourself going and then use your relaxation tools to calm you back down.. here is my vid for more info on that :) xoxo <a href="https://youtu.be/mlJy85EQrCI" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://youtu.be/mlJy85EQrCI</a>
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 20:03:18 +0000 UTCI am SO sorry that that happened to you :( Ugh! Do you have a therapist? I would reach out for some extra support during this time maybe even going 2x per week until you are feeling a bit better and not so traumatized. It's okay that you don't remember right now.. working with a trauma therapist will help you slowly remember in a way that is safe and not retraumatizing. Also, it's normal for our ED to come back in full force after something like this happens.. cause it's our way to cope with hard things in general. I would reach out and see someone asap!!! It will get better.. we just need to get you extra support right now. xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:59:26 +0000 UTCI know this is hard.. but when we know something is coming up (a planned event or vacation etc) we will want to prepare ahead. That may be taking the whole day before you leave off.. and to yourself so you can recharge and do some self care. I always work with my clients to prep ahead of things that may be hard for them.. and plan ways to get breaks (like at a wedding, going in the bathroom for a bit or offering to refill everyone's drinks) whatever you can do to get away for a bit so you can relax. Maybe even getting up early to go for a quiet walk by yourself.. finding time to relax and reboot I find helps the most :) And having tools to use if we start to feel overwhelmed. xoxo I hope that helps a bit for the next time this kind of thing happens. xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:57:03 +0000 UTCAre you seeing a therapist or school counselor? I would encourage you to talk to that professor and see if she can help you find someone.. because that will give you a safe place to talk about this and process it through. Cause we know why you are feeling this way, and I would even bring up that book "the emotionally absent mother" and try to work through that in therapy. I honestly think that could help SO much!! xoxo Thank you for the picture too! I love the message <3
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:54:10 +0000 UTCIt was very helpful! Thank you for answering it and for guesting me....I really appreciate it :)
Heather S.
2017-05-01 19:49:45 +0000 UTCIt sounds like it's your depression getting worse.. are you feeling lower than normal?? I would call your doctor and/or therapist (if you are seeing one now) and let them know. A medication change or increase and a therapy session could help :) xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:49:23 +0000 UTCTruth is that we have to start with our self talk.. and try ending each day with one thing that we love about ourselves or that day. Or something we are grateful for. Then next week try for 2 things.. and keep increasing until each night you are telling yourself 5-10 things you love about you :) Also here is an older vid about this too! I hope that helps!! xoxo <a href="https://youtu.be/1dUgELSEKGk" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://youtu.be/1dUgELSEKGk</a>
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:48:32 +0000 UTCYou can send it in now.. just send me a message and let me know it's for the videos. I am filming this today around 3pm PST.. there is still time!! xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:47:12 +0000 UTCI hope my answer on the livestream helped!!
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:46:24 +0000 UTCHere's a video I have about it :) <a href="https://youtu.be/AUUc6XlLImU" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://youtu.be/AUUc6XlLImU</a> I hope that helps.. and I think I talked about this in the livestream too!! xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:46:10 +0000 UTCI hope my answer on the livestream was helpful :) Thanks for guesting too!! xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:45:18 +0000 UTCI hope my answer on the livestream was helpful :) xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:45:00 +0000 UTCI would let your mom know that you only have a basic understanding and if someone is suicidal it's important that they see a professional so things don't get worse. Try to get across how serious this is and how it needs to be treated by a licensed professional.. not a relative (even though you have skills). xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:44:00 +0000 UTCI agree with Amie :) DEAR MAN works wonders for this! As for improving after a conflict, I think it's good to have one portion of a day where you talk about the conflict (no cross talk, just sharing how we felt etc) and then hopefully everyone feels heard and can move on. If this hasn't been done and you think it could help, ask your boss or supervisor to set it up at the next meeting. I hope that helps :) xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:42:12 +0000 UTCI would call your doctor and be pushy about it!! Let them know what you told me and then I would try what Heather said and talk to the pharmacist :) They can help too!!! xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:38:03 +0000 UTCDid you ask her and she said she couldn't?? From my understanding as long as you sign a release and say it's okay I can call and update them :) Other than that, give yourself time to grieve the loss of your old therapist. It's okay to be sad and upset about it.. and then I would encourage you to focus on the fresh start and what you want to work on with your new therapist :) xoxo
Kati Morton
2017-05-01 19:37:06 +0000 UTCThank u I will try
Juniejunebug
2017-04-30 00:44:54 +0000 UTCI can definitely see how that would help... I'll give it a try, thank you so much!
Sheepishness
2017-04-29 11:38:04 +0000 UTCThanks so much Amie!
Kayla Clare
2017-04-29 03:20:44 +0000 UTCI got confused with this and your message about this months videos. Now I'm too late. Long week :-(
Claire Christian
2017-04-28 22:59:05 +0000 UTCSo here is the problem. Imagine the angriest / most disgusted you have ever felt, now target that at yourself 24/7. The best bit, you know its not good but due to the hatred you can't really see getting help as an option. How do you even begin to deal with that?
Jakob
2017-04-28 22:28:42 +0000 UTCKati... sorry to pester you with another question... but i am feeling kind of strange today. Dettached in a way. Bu mostly I'm not sure where this urge is coming from but I am fighting the compulsion to say goodbye to people.. I will be having what seems to be a normal conversation and I begin to feel all sentimental and feel like I need to say goodbye to them. Is this significant/normal?
Holly Heilig
2017-04-28 22:15:27 +0000 UTCHey kati, I'm having a really tough time at the moment, I was just starting to feel like I was making progress in my ED recovery, and then last week I was assaulted and have completely lost my appetite, which is making recovery even harder. The thought of food makes me feel sick, and now I'm going right back to my ED behaviours because I'm not coping too well. I've also been really struggling to deal with what happened, because I don't remember all of it (I was way too drunk), and I can't shake the thought that I've massively over exaggerated what I can remember. What I can remember is forceful and quite distressing, but I can only remember small flashes and I'm scared that I've got the whole thing completely wrong and taken all of it out of context. I ended up in hospital even though I wasn't physically hurt (except a few bruises), and I'd lost all of my stuff, and without going into too much detail, there were just signs that something in general had gone wrong. It all feels so wrong, but I'm worried I'm being dramatic. Do you have any advice? Sorry I know this is super long, I just feel like I'm hanging on by a thread
Georgie C
2017-04-28 21:51:50 +0000 UTCHi Kati! I'm supposed to go inpatient in a couple of weeks and my anxiety is horrible. Went there and got a little tour of the ward and stuff on wedensday and it all feels more real now. Im not able to sleep or eat even tho im exhausted. My whole body keeps shaking and im feeling so sick like about to puke all the time. Cant take this anymore and im getting so desperate for the anxiety to calm down. Any advice?
Mariiil
2017-04-28 21:31:08 +0000 UTCHey Kati! How can I stop being angry at myself for things that are out of my control? I feel like I can't be angry at others, so I end up being angry at myself. How can I stop this, and what are some healthy ways of coping with anger? Also, How can I stop stressing out about time? I wake up at 3AM and can't fall back asleep because I'm worried if I sleep I wont have enough time to do all my assignments! (It's not only with school stuff, I'm also anxious about being late so I end up being an hour early to my appointments, wasting time waiting...)
Sheepishness
2017-04-28 20:36:44 +0000 UTCIt is now isn't it?
Nicky Fitch
2017-04-28 20:23:42 +0000 UTCSpeak with the pharmacist at the pharmacy that you use :) They'll be able to tell you if the medication that the doctor is trying to have you fill has the same active ingredients or fillers that you're allergic to, explain the differences between the prescriptions, and help advocate for you with your doctor! I'm a pharmacy technician and people ask those questions all the time. Its what the pharmacists are there for...I've had to do the same thing with antibiotics once. Its way more common than you'd think, but they'll help you! Good luck ;)
Heather S.
2017-04-28 17:41:14 +0000 UTCHey kati! I need advice about making a decision to start studying to become a social worker or counsellor i never considered it till just recently when my friends suggested that i would be good at the job. Even though my friends think i would be good at it i am not so sure. I am interested in mental health but it never crossed my mind of studying it i think because i suffer from mental health conditions myself and if i cant help myself then how can i help other people. What are the things that i should consider when making a decision like this. Thanks :)
Toni Perkins
2017-04-28 16:20:43 +0000 UTCHi Kati - I have struggled with mental illness since I was a small child. I've spent most of my adolescence and adulthood in and out of various forms of treatment. My current diagnoses are: Major Depressive Disorder, Anxiety disorder, BPD, and PTSD. I have done talk therapy, CBT, EMDR, and most recently DBT to help manage my symptoms. None of which have seemed to help. I see a psychiatrist for medications, but I am apparently "med resistant" and she does not know what to do with me anymore. I have also started seeing a new psychologist, as well, and with this comes a new possible diagnosis of Schizoid Personality Disorder. Needless to say, my head is swimming, and hopelessness is at an all time high.I don't know where to go to get proper treatment anymore. But to get to my question: is it even possible to have all of these diagnoses? Especially multiple personality disorders? Do you have any recommendations in terms of what forms of treatment I should try next? Some days I feel like watching your videos has done more for me than the treatments I've gone through. Thank you so much for all that you do, and for all the the people you've helped. :)
Emily B.
2017-04-28 16:12:03 +0000 UTCI'm struggling with how to know when it is a good idea for me to push myself to do things that make me anxious or when it is best for me to step back and take a break. I've had a very overwhelming and stressful past couple of weeks btwn work, school, and my personal life, and I just started a new antidepressant which I am still not sure is working for me yet. So I've been feeling pretty maxed out to say the least & all I wanted to do was have a relaxing self care day, but my whole family and I had plans to go to DC for a family friend's wedding. Traveling and socializing are both major sources of anxiety for me and my anxiety was at the point where I was feeling physically sick. But I kinda forced myself to go and while I did have a generally nice time at the wedding and on the trip I'm not sure if it was worth all of it or if it did me more harm than good. This is a kinda retroactive question since it is in the past but I'm hoping you might have some insight for what to do when something like this happens in the future. Thanks :)
Rachel B
2017-04-28 14:10:40 +0000 UTC(I posted a comment earlier but I don't think it posted so I'm posting again - Sorry if it's a repeat!) Hey Kati! I think you already know about this but I have some attachment related issues due to coming from an abusive household and then later being stalked for 2 years and assaulted. Fast forward --> This year a different man began following me and displaying threatening behavior. One of my professors noticed him searching for me and following me. She called me over to her and told me to stand beside her and she told the man he needed to leave. Then she walked me to her office and called the crisis line at our school. She drove me to the appointment and stayed with me the whole time. Then she checked in again a few days later to make sure I felt safe and that the behaviors had stopped. When we were at the appointment with the crisis counselor she said "When I saw him following her I felt very protective of her." She sounded angry at the man and like she actually cared about me. It was a really emotional moment for me because no one had ever protected me growing up. My mom never protected me from my father or the other man who had hurt me. It was really overwhelming (in a good way) to feel cared for. But since then I have had this strong desire to have a relationship with her, like a mentor/mentee relationship. I have been preventing myself from talking to her because I don't want her to feel like I am crossing boundaries or make her regret helping me. I haven't said a single word to her since that day. But I can't stop thinking about how significant her actions here that day and really desiring to talk to her. Any advice would be super helpful!!! Thanks for everything you do! <3
Kayla Clare
2017-04-28 14:10:04 +0000 UTCI would start off by telling someone you that you can trust or close. I told my best friend how. I'm struggling.
Sara
2017-04-28 13:55:52 +0000 UTCYea I have mentioned Kati before in a casual way through conversation but I will read director thanks
Sara
2017-04-28 13:47:52 +0000 UTCHey lovely! I could do with hearing a little about 'silent anxiety'. My body has expressed intense symptoms of anxiety but I myself, have felt no anxiety at all. This has been because I found out my counsellor had to suddenly leave temporarily due a a personal situation. Had no time to talk about it with her and just told I would see a new counsellor. My mind was already drowning in overwhelming-Ness due to an ongoing situation and so this sudden news, i think my mind has just switched off - literally! But my body is still feeling. I hope this all makes sense! Thank you x x
Nicky Fitch
2017-04-28 11:01:17 +0000 UTCOne of my first instincts would be to just mention about Kati and her YouTube channel in a normal conversation ( : x x
Nicky Fitch
2017-04-28 10:56:36 +0000 UTCHi Kati! I was wondering whether you have any advice about how I can gather the courage to tell friends and family members that I'm depressed? I've been trying to hide my mental health issues for years and it's only getting harder.
Simone Buck
2017-04-28 09:20:30 +0000 UTCHi Kati! I was wondering what your thoughts would be if a client of yours said that they wanted to relocate to a different part of the country after making some not so great decisions. Would you call that starting over or running away from things? Do you think that we really do get a "second chance" to reinvent ourselves and to live a healthy and happy life even if we didn't make the best choices in the past? I'd be interested to hear your feelings on the subject.
Heather S.
2017-04-28 08:27:57 +0000 UTCHi kati! I can't make it to the live stream (I'll rewatch on you tube) but could you talk a bit about looking after your mental health while travelling? Particularly travelling alone as i ill be. I'm going to the UK/Europe for any gong from 6months to 2 years and am trying to work out some tool to take with me without packing my entire house so any suggestions old be great! Thanks for all the amazing work you do 😆
Robyn Mathie
2017-04-28 06:46:15 +0000 UTCHey Kati and kinions! I need advice on how to deal with stress/anxirty during school. The only thing on my mind is everything I have to get done but then procrastinate it all. I've been seeing a therapist for a while (Skype and in person) now and we have a great relationship but I couldn't afford it anymore so I'm starting possibly with a school counselor. I feel like I've tried everything but nothing has helped. It's only the second week of school and don't know what to do! Please help! Thanks for all your videos and all you do your amazing!
Annie Little
2017-04-28 06:32:50 +0000 UTCHey Kati I need your advice ! My cousin is in high school and a teacher saw her writing in her notebook about suicide. The guidance counselor was notified spoke to Mom and recommend that she she's speaks to a social worker. Mom has asked me to speak to her, instead. I do have basic counseling skills I really would like to help her. I feel like she should see a social worker but Mom is not comfortable with that.
Sara
2017-04-28 04:44:48 +0000 UTCWhat is your best advice for dealing with difficult people who you are part of an organization with? How can a group improve after a conflict?
Courtney Vega
2017-04-28 04:33:16 +0000 UTCHi kati I need advice on what to do I had a allergic reaction to the anti depressants that the dr changed me to and now I'm scared to start the new ones in case it happens again but I'm really struggling with my thoughts and moods without any meds what should I do the dr isn't listening and won't just put me back on the ones I used to be on which I know are safe.
Juniejunebug
2017-04-28 04:07:08 +0000 UTCHow to feel better about getting a new therapist and having to explain everything all over again?! Also, I'm moving from America to England so I don't think she can like share anything with my new therapist. 😔
OfficialLilac
2017-04-28 03:57:55 +0000 UTC
