Kati Morton

Supporting Family When It's Triggering?! Overcoming Maladaptive Core Beliefs!

Added 2017-07-13 19:12:25 +0000 UTC

1. Yesterday I got news that my younger- whom has been a rock for me since my assault- had his wife leave him. When I found the reason out, I found it hard to be on his side as sad he is. He is my blood and family. But a lot of the small stuff that led to this decision of his wife mirrored my past relationship. Which was online cheating and online type of relationships. My ex had done this..but also taken it further then my brother had. Unlike my ex, my brother wasn't abusive. He was the one that was verbally abused constantly...so I am very torn. I want to be there. But there are so many triggers in this for me. Then there is my nephew Carter; his presence in my life helps keep me going most of the time. My brothers wife naturally took him with her..said to him that he might be lucky to see him sometime soon. Anyways..this situation like I said is triggering a lot for me, do you think it is wise for me to step back and just have my other family members help him, and step back..since I am also in my own world of healing? I couldn't help him last night when he came over to not be alone..I can't be near him while he cries.

2. Could you talk about maladaptive core beliefs? I have been struggling with thoughts that when good things are happening that means something bad is going to happen since that is what always happens. I was told that is a maladaptive core belief born from trauma in my past. Thanks. My video on self sabotage: https://youtu.be/_zopSb--A18