Why does my Therapist Ask This? Help! First Gyno Appt! How To Feel Safe in Therapy!
Added 2017-07-13 19:17:01 +0000 UTC1. I was wondering - what's the purpose of the question 'what are you feeling in your body and where do you feel it' in the context of talking about emotions? My therapist asks me that quite often, especially during trauma work - so have been very curious! Thanks Kati!! Xxx
2. Hi Kati! I was wondering if you could talk about getting your first gynecological exam when you're a survivor of childhood sexual abuse? How can someone prepare for this when their body physically cannot relax, even when getting intimate with their partner. Thank you!
3. #KatiFAQ how do I go about feeling safe in therapy when my past experiences haven't been that great. (I've been passed around. I'll be on my 6th therapist) I'll be starting with a new therapist in a month and I'm anxious. Help please??? (side note I am also diagnosed with BPD).
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Your work is phenomenal.
Illuminati Games
2017-07-31 00:28:03 +0000 UTCOh Carmen. All the best of love and luck! I don't know how I'm going to get through it physically but emotionally, I hope it makes a huge difference. I think you must be one of the bravest people on the planet! I really hope you get what you need from it and please tell the hospital staff what you are scared of so they can help you! I'm so sorry life has been so horrible to you. I really, REALLY hope this helps! xxxxx
BinsQ
2017-07-21 02:28:53 +0000 UTCI'm getting a hysterectomy in September for this very reason. I find getting my period extremely triggering and since my most recent sexual assault I haven't been able to bring myself to get a pelvic exam even though I was diligent before with no problems. The hysterectomy will obviously get rid of my period but also mean I won't need pelvic exams anymore because I will be getting my cervix removed too. The surgery itself is traumatizing to even think about considering I don't want to be exposed to anybody, even my obgyn. And sedatives terrify me which is because of the role they played in my sexual assault.
Carmen
2017-07-21 00:38:40 +0000 UTCOh thank you! I know! Those letters are so scary! I've trained myself not to be scared of needles and most things, I actually LOVE the dentist (yes, I'm weird) but Pap Smears have me shaking at the thought of the pain for weeks in advance. I shouldn't need anymore after this op. It's a very hard thing to do and I applaud anyone brave enough to get it done because it's the ultimate in hero land in my opinion. I hope you can get less terrified. I tell myself it's literally one minute of pain (for me, not for most people) and then it's done for two whole years! That part is amazing. One minute. Kimmy Schmidt says you can stand anything for ten seconds.. :) Good luck to you too and I'll always be up for a chat about this stuff. :)
BinsQ
2017-07-15 00:56:03 +0000 UTCI have avoided these appointments totally, the letters come in the post inviting me to book a cervical exam and I just throw them away rather than deal with them, doctors appointments in general actually unless I'm so sick that I have to go, it makes me feel really vulnerable and anxious. I know I should/need to go but the thought if it really terrifies me. Good luck with your op, hope it all goes well. x
Emily
2017-07-14 23:24:36 +0000 UTCI shook so much during my first one that I had to physically hold my legs. Luckily the Specialist was brilliant but now I just dread it. I'm getting a full hysterectomy in two weeks which won't fix anything but will get me off some nasty and expensive medication. I really feel for all females going through this. It's absolutely one of the hardest things to face and I don't have a history of abuse at all. Much love.
BinsQ
2017-07-14 01:13:02 +0000 UTCHi Kati, Great video. God i struggle so much with question 1. When my therapist asks me what I feel in my body and where I feel it when I'm dealing with past trauma (sexual abuse), I find myself feeling nothing at all, it feels like my body is just a cold dark hole with nothing inside of it. Is that weird?? I seem to almost stay in my head and think about how I should feel rather than actually feel it. I find it really frustrating because I cant work through it if I can't feel it. It gets me down a lot because I feel completely stuck. Would be interested to hear if you have any tips or techniques that might help push me forward. Thank you for all the awesome work you do. x
Emily
2017-07-13 22:50:09 +0000 UTC
