Inappropriate Coping Skills? Emotional Abuse in Sports? Emotion Mind? Worth the Fight?

1. Hi Kati, As man who was sexually assaulted, How do I control my coping skills, they are inappropriate and I know this but the fact is I learn them and they are what works.

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2. Hi Kati! I grew up in an emotionally abusive house and took gymnastics from the time I was 3 to 14 (I am 24 now). I am in therapy working on my PTSD (from gymnastics) and am trying to learn how to love myself. Sexual Abuse in gymnastics has been getting a lot of media attention but I haven’t heard a lot about emotional or physical abuse. I have looked online and because I haven’t found much, I feel like I am alone and that I am making it up. Where is the line when it comes to abuse in sports? For example, stretching for sports like gymnastics, dance and figure skating (and others I’m sure) can be very painful and leave someone crying and screaming, but flexibility is necessary. Is slapping someone’s feet abuse when the correction could be the difference in them breaking their toes if they do it wrong again next time? I guess my question is- Does the end ever justify the means?

3. Hi Kati! I'm a very logical person and I never have shown many emotions. I have emotions obviously, but I'm not in touch with them. My therapist has been working with me, so I can get closer to the middle where the "Wise mind" sits. What are the benefits of being more in touch with your emotions? Also what is it like when your far on the "emotional mind" side?

4. How do you know if it's worth the fight? How do you know if it's worth trying so hard to recover for so long? How do you know it's going to get better eventually? The past week has been extremely difficult for me. I have fallen down the black hole of depression, and my anxiety has been very high. Speaking has sometimes been an effort, and getting out of bed has been a real struggle. I see a psychologist weekly who is awesome, and we are working through some difficult issues, I have a really supportive Church family, I just can't seem to see a way out of this. I don't remember the last time I felt this bad. I am walking around completely detached from myself and everything, I'm in a weird depressed anxious bubble. I just don't know how to break out. I know others must feel like this too.