Book stories about anger
Added 2024-08-19 19:09:06 +0000 UTCMoving into a new chapter this week and looking for any stories about anger or strong emotions you find yourself turning away from. Could be how out of control anger feels, ways it was expressed in your home growing up, or even the ways you have learned to better manage it. Feel free to leave them in the comments of message me with them! Thank you so much :) xoxo
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I turn away from my anger because I'm afraid I'm going to hurt people with my reactions when I'm angry. I was so abused and manipulated by my mother's anger ever since I can remember. I still am to this day as I work on trying to set boundaries with her. I know that when I get angry, even if someone assures me that my anger is justified, that I could so easily wound people with my words or actions. The scary thing is that part of me wants to. I go from 0 to 100 with my anger in a blink of an eye. I don't show it, but it's there. I don't want to release it because I don't want to be my mother and hurt people. So I just stuff it down. I don't feel that I am entitled to my feelings at all, and I definitely don't feel that I have a right to get angry at anyone. The thought of hurting someone with my words or actions terrifies me. I don't want someone to be hurt the way I have been and continue to be hurt.
Brianna Elmore
2024-08-26 23:29:23 +0000 UTCIt took me a while to develop a relationship with my own anger. Early on, most things I'd get angry about, I felt powerless to change so I just swallowed it, thinking I was "letting it go". When I finally recognized what I was doing, I developed a strategy of taking a pause to (try to) step back and think "what am I REALLY reacting to here?" I learned that anger is always a secondary emotion, so I learned a lot about my own triggers and blind spots by looking at "what makes me angry?" I still get angry, but often it's about my own fails, which is a whole different challenge. I try to think about those as 'opportunities for improvement'. Success is variable.
Mike Fedel
2024-08-21 17:38:57 +0000 UTCAnger can be both a good thing and a bad thing. It has made me feel so sick and tired of feeling like I need to be crawling around at everyone elses feet that it sendt my anxiety running out the door. It has put my father in place, and people that were doing me wrong, and for that I could build an altar an worship it. But it has also made me see what can lead human beings to do unthinkable things to both others and themselves. I do speak from experience on that one, unfortunatly, at some point I was so desperate I didnt know what to do, how to make people stop hurting me, and I felt this blind rage all the time, that was coming out of desperation, and hopelessness, and it made me feel like I could do anything, absolutely anything, burn a building down if I had to if it would bring me the smallest crumb of releaf, or feeling of controll. It felt like I was trappet inside a raging storm that was much stronger then I was, and it felt like it was tearing me up from the inside, while it wasnt getting anywhere. That kind of anger feels very different then the healthy kind of anger, it doesnt give me strength, it burns it away and its just a reckless, violent storm as opposed to a feeling of strength and control.
Linn
2024-08-20 16:43:14 +0000 UTCWhen I was young, anger was often expressed loudly and intensely at home by adults. It scared me then, and it still does. As a teenager, I struggled with my own anger, which often felt overwhelming and ugly. I believe the anger was related to going through puberty and SA that had occurred for a long period of time. Over time, I’ve learned to keep my anger inside. Now, if someone gets angry with me, I tend to become extremely passive and apologetic, even if I haven’t done anything wrong. I feel like anger really taught me that people pleasing will keep everything calm and safe.
Peita Brown
2024-08-19 21:49:11 +0000 UTCFor a long time I felt like I didn't deserve to be angry. Like my feelings were so low on the priority list that anger at others was just plain selfish. I felt like if I got angry about something then that was a me problem and no one else should have to change anything just because I was angry. I pushed all my anger down and buried it under thoughts of me just overreacting, when in reality I can now see I was having a normal reaction to the hurt I felt. Nowadays, I use anger as an alarm bell. It tells me when something hurts. I tell myself it is valid to be angry and then I listen to loud music and scream along, or vent that anger into a journal. Then I take a step back and ask the anger to let me take a better look at the hurt inside, and take some time to repair the hurt and care for myself. Sometimes this means confronting someone who has hurt me, which is still scary, but much more doable with a variety of skills I have learned in therapy.
Kiaya
2024-08-19 20:59:38 +0000 UTCAnger was kind of useless to me growing up. Since I had so little control over my circumstances it would just cause conflicts to flare up more. I gave up on being angry at others at some point. I would always turn inward and get mad at myself whenever something called for anger since that was where I had control. If someone were mean to me I would always try to figure out what I did wrong, instead of rightfully getting mad at them. Now it can be such a relief to just be like, "wow what a jerk" and move on. There is something energizing about anger and it's a waste to use it to beat myself up. It feels a lot better to use it to be creative/productive.
Isobel Totten
2024-08-19 19:35:13 +0000 UTC
